Moments ago, a friend of mine called me "weird" (a cognitive distortion known as "labeling") after she learned I didn't know that she was the one text-messaging me this morning.
For the record, out of the 18 contacts in my address book, four are family members (22%) and 12 are my closest friends or acquaintances I enjoy being connected to the most (78%) . Since I'm connected to nearly 2,000 people due to friendships, education, volunteering, or business, there are ten super smart reasons why I have under 20 contacts. Let's begin:
1. Functionality - I prefer to quickly locate the people with whom I speak the most.
2. Availability - Due to the nature of my work and lifestyle, I am most often unavailable for unscheduled phone calls.
3. Discipline - One of my personal preferences is to limit distractions.
4. Efficiency - E-mails are a better way to communicate for non-urgent priorities.
5. Interest - While it would be fun to be connected to plenty of people on my cell phone, I have enough fun being connected to people via e-mail and Facebook.
6. Effort - I am not interested in taking the time and making the effort to maintain an abundant address book.
7. Temptation - In my spare time, I do some personal coaching. While I'm an exceptional listener and enjoy helping people reach personal and business goals, I would be tempted to help even more people if I had 24/7 access to them in the palm of my hand.
8. Minutes - Up until May 2008, I had the 300 min./month Verizon calling plan. It's true, but I was actually only averaging 200 minutes a month. While I'm now on a 450 min./month plan (and actually hit 700 last month due to new coaching clients), having limitations helps me focus on my priorities.
9. Opportunity Costs - The more I speak on the phone today, the less I'll want to speak on the phone tomorrow. That's not good if tomorrow I'm committed to making specific phone calls. This one's for you, Ma!
10. My Profession - I am a professional speaker who is compensated to communicate to people on a one-on-one basis, in small groups, or before large audiences. Some days, I spend 8-12 hours speaking to people. For professional speakers, the last thing one wishes to do after a day or week of speaking is to speak on the phone. And for no fee, mind you.
So there you have it friends. Interested in having me speak? Please visit my web site to learn more about me.
Saturday, January 17, 2009
Thursday, January 15, 2009
10 Terrific Tips to Eliminating Risks in Your Kitchen
I've hosted my home to a good deal of people and based on my experiences, here a few tips for those of you that would truly like to succeed in the kitchen and your life:
1. Eliminate any air from bags or packages with food to maintain freshness. Squeeze tight!
2. If you're fortunate to have two sponges at your kitchen sink, designate which one is exclusively for the kitchen counter tops and which is exclusively for washing dishes.
3. Only use the trash bin for dry trash. Use the sink for liquid waste.
4. You can save 87% more time and effort by quickly washing a dish by hand (versus rinsing it, putting it in the automatic dishwasher, preparing the dishwasher, waiting, and unloading the dishes.)
5. Expiration dates are often a brilliant marketing strategy to encourage increased spending for food products. Processed foods, especially, can last years well beyond their "best by" or "expiration date".
6. Back to the sponges again: once in awhile, put your sponges in the microwave for a minute to kill the bacteria. Give the sponges a good soak in water first to be more effective.
7. Speaking of the microwave, some research has shown that changing the molecular components of food prior to consumption can be dangerous. Use the stove or oven instead to reheat a dish and boil your tap water for tea.
8. Cleanliness is next to godliness my mother once said (each morning, day, and night). Keep in mind that your skin is your largest organ and what you put on it will be absorbed into your system. Select a safe hand soap or dish detergent.
9. Each time you prepare a meal or snack ask yourself, "Is this the best option for my health and well-being?"
10. Nearly 70% of the US population is overweight or obese and most have a sedentary lifestyle and eat animal products. Additionally, close to 50% of our population is on anti-depressants. Why do you think that is? What do they all have in common? Human consumption. Open your mind and see why plant-based diets lead to less occurrences of death and disease. Did you know that 50% of Americans will die from Heart Disease or Cancer? Lower your risks and start preventing disease in your own kitchen. FYI, arthritis, MS, and digestive disorders accounts for 75% of health-care costs. As they say, what (you eat that) doesn't kill you, only makes you stronger.
1. Eliminate any air from bags or packages with food to maintain freshness. Squeeze tight!
2. If you're fortunate to have two sponges at your kitchen sink, designate which one is exclusively for the kitchen counter tops and which is exclusively for washing dishes.
3. Only use the trash bin for dry trash. Use the sink for liquid waste.
4. You can save 87% more time and effort by quickly washing a dish by hand (versus rinsing it, putting it in the automatic dishwasher, preparing the dishwasher, waiting, and unloading the dishes.)
5. Expiration dates are often a brilliant marketing strategy to encourage increased spending for food products. Processed foods, especially, can last years well beyond their "best by" or "expiration date".
6. Back to the sponges again: once in awhile, put your sponges in the microwave for a minute to kill the bacteria. Give the sponges a good soak in water first to be more effective.
7. Speaking of the microwave, some research has shown that changing the molecular components of food prior to consumption can be dangerous. Use the stove or oven instead to reheat a dish and boil your tap water for tea.
8. Cleanliness is next to godliness my mother once said (each morning, day, and night). Keep in mind that your skin is your largest organ and what you put on it will be absorbed into your system. Select a safe hand soap or dish detergent.
9. Each time you prepare a meal or snack ask yourself, "Is this the best option for my health and well-being?"
10. Nearly 70% of the US population is overweight or obese and most have a sedentary lifestyle and eat animal products. Additionally, close to 50% of our population is on anti-depressants. Why do you think that is? What do they all have in common? Human consumption. Open your mind and see why plant-based diets lead to less occurrences of death and disease. Did you know that 50% of Americans will die from Heart Disease or Cancer? Lower your risks and start preventing disease in your own kitchen. FYI, arthritis, MS, and digestive disorders accounts for 75% of health-care costs. As they say, what (you eat that) doesn't kill you, only makes you stronger.
Tuesday, January 13, 2009
10 Questions I'd Rather Not Be Asked
If you know me, you're probably aware that I rarely hate anything. Additionally, when it comes to finding the truth or determining needs or wants, you know that I love the power of asking questions. Except maybe ten questions that may traditionally cause one to feel upset. One being me. So, here they are in random order:
1. "Who do you think you are?"
2. "What, are you crazy?!"
3. "Don't you think that's a little weird?"
4. "Wanna grab a bite to eat?"
5. "Don't you think you should get a job?"
6. "What were you thinking?!"
7. "So, what do you do exactly?"
8. "Why don't you want to get married?"
9. "You can't eat that, right?"
10. "Are you my daddy?"
1. "Who do you think you are?"
2. "What, are you crazy?!"
3. "Don't you think that's a little weird?"
4. "Wanna grab a bite to eat?"
5. "Don't you think you should get a job?"
6. "What were you thinking?!"
7. "So, what do you do exactly?"
8. "Why don't you want to get married?"
9. "You can't eat that, right?"
10. "Are you my daddy?"
Saturday, January 10, 2009
Top 10 Fears About Writing My Next Book on Fear
1. I'm afraid I'll sell all my copies and won't even have a chance to read the book myself.
2. I'm scared that I'll be impacting so many readers' lives that I'll be in demand for speaking engagements and won't have any time to update my high school alumni network's web site.
3. I fear that the book will be so good that I'll never write another one because I won't be able to top perfection.
4. I'm afraid that American readers will be even more afraid in our "terrible economy" when they see that the title of my book is Fear and Doubt.
5. I'm scared that my friends will start reading books again because mine will be so enjoyable thereby cutting back the number of text messages and emails I receive on a daily basis.
6. I fear that Fear and Doubt, my eighth book, will be so good that it will be the first book of mine that my family actually reads.
7. I'm afraid that big-name publishers will come-ah-calling in such large numbers that I'll go over my minutes on my Verizon Wireless plan.
8. I'm scared that my web site will shut down due to the influx of web traffic.
9. I fear that I'll enjoy completing my next book so much that I'll realize that I prefer writing over professional speaking.
10. I'm afraid that the book-writing-process won't take two years, but two weeks, leaving more free time to update my high school alumni network's web site.
Are you a scaredy cat or top dog? Learn the truth about fear and doubt: fear and doubt
2. I'm scared that I'll be impacting so many readers' lives that I'll be in demand for speaking engagements and won't have any time to update my high school alumni network's web site.
3. I fear that the book will be so good that I'll never write another one because I won't be able to top perfection.
4. I'm afraid that American readers will be even more afraid in our "terrible economy" when they see that the title of my book is Fear and Doubt.
5. I'm scared that my friends will start reading books again because mine will be so enjoyable thereby cutting back the number of text messages and emails I receive on a daily basis.
6. I fear that Fear and Doubt, my eighth book, will be so good that it will be the first book of mine that my family actually reads.
7. I'm afraid that big-name publishers will come-ah-calling in such large numbers that I'll go over my minutes on my Verizon Wireless plan.
8. I'm scared that my web site will shut down due to the influx of web traffic.
9. I fear that I'll enjoy completing my next book so much that I'll realize that I prefer writing over professional speaking.
10. I'm afraid that the book-writing-process won't take two years, but two weeks, leaving more free time to update my high school alumni network's web site.
Are you a scaredy cat or top dog? Learn the truth about fear and doubt: fear and doubt
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