Why I Don't Want Kids

Having had an online dating profile for 10 years, my stated preference in having children has been anywhere between "Do not want children" to "Someday."

No matter what I feel at this moment about having and raising children, anything is possible in the future. I may want kids in the year 2018.

Nevertheless, as I look back at over 30 years of being a human being, I continue to state to those closest to me and the media that I currently do not want to have children.

The media have made a big deal about this by including my story in multiple publications like People and Time magazine. Check it out for yourself. Big story. Everywhere. Even in The Economist, writers have found my story compelling.

My story is very simple. Call it a "condition" if you prefer.

In general, I have learned that being the best parent possible requires a significant amount of consistent time, interest, resources, effort, and dedication. See the acronym? It spells T.I.R.E.D. That's a red flag for someone like me.

Who am I?

I am a talented, young, pre-occupied, independent, self-focused, traveler. I've been a T.Y.P.I.S.T. since graduating college. No matter what I've been or done and no matter what I've experienced, I have never wanted to have nor raise children. It's that simple. It's that rare. It is what it is.

Basic biology states that humans are to have children as what's the point to be human if you're not procreating?

Don't get me wrong, I'm pro-creating. In fact, I'm very pro-creating and perhaps that's the challenge. I have been so preoccupied with creativity - music, art, writing, and self-expression since college that I haven't made the time to consider a life dedicated to children.

I've been focused on building a career as a professional speaker, building wealth, and improving my health. I don't have the time nor the inclination to consider having children. It's not that I don't value the idea of family - I do. Thanks to my parents' divorce, my family is a little bigger and I have an extra parent. It's just that I would rather commit myself to 100 things before I commit to a child.

Am I a bad person? Not at all. I've been very responsible in preventing having children. I would rather do an exceptional job at not being a father than do a poor job at being a parent.

Look kids, it just comes down to one thing: I am not - nor have I ever been - interested in having children because I have been interested in so many other things that I never took the opportunity to consider the wonderful aspects of fatherhood.

So, stop being a baby, and consider being more open-minded to those that don't desire the same biological things as you. When it comes to biology, not everyone prefers a healthy-lifestyle, daily physical activity, or being a vegetarian. And not everyone prefers the same psychological things like being self-employed, traveling the country, and focusing on their music, art, literature, and public speaking.

Who wants to hear a bedtime story?!

Let me write it first. My "baby" is due New Years Eve and I hope she's a healthy 150 pages, easy to read, and super fun. Just like her father.