Perceptions, Preferences, and Priorities

In response to the blog related to the challenges that short men face when single and dating; posted originally by Evan Marc Katz.

“Perceptions, Preferences, and Priorities”

For the record, I’m 29 years of age, Caucasian, and 6'0 (without shoes), and have a very athletic build. Positive physical features aside, I have been single most of my life. Why? I value being creative and working seven days each week though conceptually I am sincerely interested in meeting someone with whom to spend the rest of my life.

I’m sensing that many Americans live in fear with regard to their romantic lives. I’ve learned recently that many times, two people decide to commit to each other due to three common, fundamental reasons: the timing was great, the opportunity stellar, and hopefully because of authentic, powerful feelings.

Personally, for years, I have felt that I won’t stop searching until I meet someone who fits my very specific requirements. I have not lived in fear while thinking, “What if I don’t meet her? What if I’m too picky?” It’s an abundant world. She is out there. Despite my specific preferences, I know that no matter what she looks like, what she does with her time and heart, and what she doesn’t do that if I know we’re truly right for each other long-term, I will make an effort to spend my life with her.

Cognitive distortions and irrational beliefs make us angry, anxious, or depressed. Please consider understanding, accepting, and forgiving others for having very specific preferences. We are always changing. He who seeks a women with X, Y, and Z today may desire one with A, B, and C tomorrow. Relax and ride the wave. Think good thoughts and think big. Well, you know what I mean.